Last night we met N and he stayed the night for the first time. He seems to be a good kid but I also get the impression that he is a little thuggish. I'm not being judgmental, after talking with him, we realized that he likes to hang out in 'da hood'. In fact the school he goes to just had a kid get caught for taking a shot gun to school. Aside from all that, I liked him. He was very quite, respectful and he made his bed this morning to boot.
I thought I would break the ice a little and explain to him why and how we came about getting a foster home license. I didn't go into any details but I did tell him about my sister and the fact that we took in our nieces for a year. I also told him that since we had our license....why not help when we can. I told him about losing my 18 year old brother last year, and how I think that is driving me to want to help kids. I'm helping this boy in honor of my little brother. Sometimes I feel like I wasn't around enough for T, well...maybe this is a way for me to make up for that. After I told him about T, he briefly mentioned that his mother past away last year. He didn't go any further, the nosey part of me wanted to ask how but I didn't want to overwhelm him or make him uncomfortable. It must be hard enough bouncing around in the foster care system, let alone having to tell everyone your business. What impresses me, is that he 17, a senior in high school and no matter how uncomfortable he is - he has not ran away from 'the system'. I just hope that he can make it with the L's (foster family), at least until he graduates. He turns 18 in Feb. and if he does well the agency and the state will help him get $ for college. Not sure if that is the route he is going to take but at least he will have options.
On a side note....I don't want to believe it but I think our SWer lied to us. I don't not want to divulge what is going on at this time, I will once I speak to C. I put in a call to her early this morning, only to learn that she will not be in the office until Monday. Once I get everything straight, I'll post about it. I could go on a rant right now but I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt....we shall see.
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