Yesterday, we had a meeting with Carrie. Carrie is a SW at Bethany. She came out to our house to do a home visit and update our paperwork for our foster parent license. I never imagined we would be licensed foster parents, it's strange how things happen. She walked around our house, pressed all three of our fire alarms (one needs batteries), she also checked where we keep our medications and she took a look at our 'vacant' (how it's stated on the application) bedroom. My house was a little messy (that's another post...lol) b/c I spent a good part of the day in the pool so I was a little embarrassed but who cares....at least I had enough sense to jump out of my bathing suit and put some clothes on 15 minutes before she arrived. I guess the important part is she gave us the thumbs up.
I have to say that during the meeting I did get a little upset. A and I were describing the ideal situation for US. We know that there are a lot of older children up for adoption through the state but we are not ready for an older child at this time. For one I nearly had to twist A's arm to even pursue adoption through foster care. And secondly G is still so little, I have to protect him and make his childhood enjoyable. At this time G is my priority. Having said this, our SW looked at us and basically said that if we are not open to more situations her supervisor will ask why we are even licensed. I can't believe she said this...I had to bite my tongue, when I really wanted to tell her to just let our license expire. If helping/adopting one child out of the foster care system isn't enough, than forget it. We've come to the realization that we are not cut out to be full time foster parents, with children of all ages coming and going. Eventually we agreed to foster up to 2 children under the age of 3. She did note that we would like a newborn, so we'll see what happens.
I have to admit after our meeting I kind of feel like maybe the infant adoption program at Bethany is the way to go. But I know of several families who have adopted through their state foster care system and are very happy.
If any of you ever have any questions, please ask, I'll try to answer them to the best of my ability.
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